Oh and just to be clear: Commenting on how a woman could be your Nubian queen or your sweet Oriental flower is not substantive.Even if you do have a creepy racial fetish, announcing it will do you zero favors (although if you do have a creepy racial fetish, maybe deal with that through pornography and therapy, and don’t bring real live human beings into it?“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.
Move on to someone who’s interested in people of your gender, location, age, etc.
So don’t whine about your lack of a love life, don’t lament the fact that you’re such a nice guy but women are such bitches, and definitely don't threaten to kill yourself because you’re lonely. If you want extra credit (and a better chance at a response) be a little bit witty.
Remember that nearly everyone likes someone who takes an interest in them. Stick to these rules, be kinda funny, try not to be a cliché machine (you love to laugh and couldn’t live without your family and friends?! ) and your profile should be at least marginally acceptable (and hopefully won’t end up here for the wrong reasons).
No one wants to date sad-sack, and no one wants to hear about your terrible past dating life the first time they talk to you.
We’re all internet dating here – it follows that we are all single and perhaps don’t want to be.